What’s a private mission assertion

What’s a private mission assertion? It’s a declaration that describes your core values and your future objectives. So, what higher factor to do than to create a private mission assertion throughout your divorce?

A divorce mission assertion can assist you keep targeted and accountable throughout divorce.

It’s really easy to lose sight of our values and objectives within the messy day-to-day of the divorce course of. In my apply, purchasers who create and use a divorce mission assertion discover it simpler to prioritize, keep targeted on the massive image and make selections they be ok with alongside the best way. 

Under are private mission statements purchasers and I created collectively to assist information them via their journey. They’ve solely been edited to take away any sort of figuring out info.

Instance 1:

We wish to untangle our lives based mostly on the values of affection and respect for one another; self-advocacy and energetic listening – particularly, checking our emotional reactions to the state of affairs, in order that after we look again on this time, we can be pleased with how we did this, and respect our long-term connection and dedication to our youngsters. As a result of we wish to stand subsequent to one another at our youngsters’ weddings and celebrations, and for our future grandchildren.

Instance 2:

We wish to protect as a lot of the love and good from our relationship as doable as we reshape our household. We are going to ask ourselves these questions as we navigate this course of.

• Is that this respectful of myself and others
• Does this protect the loving / joyful / adventurous recollections of our household?
• Is that this essentially the most equitable alternative for everybody?
• Am I making selections that mirror who I’m at my finest / my finest self?
• Is that this in the most effective pursuits of our kids?
• Is that this supportive of a lifetime of wholesome, blissful coparenting

Instance 3:

We wish to stay open hearted and are available from a spot of affection and respect as we every outline it and set up and keep wholesome boundaries in order that we are able to reduce the unfavorable impression on one another and on children and be wholesome co-parents long-term and finally redefine our relationship for the long run.

Instance 4:

To proceed to deal with one another with loving kindness, and be companions to one another, to allow us each to turn out to be the most effective model of ourselves, and as dad and mom.

Whether or not you create a press release together with your partner or by yourself, it’s most necessary to make it a working doc. 

Don’t write it and overlook it!

When you’ve drafted one thing you want put it in your cellphone, in your mirror, by your mattress and in your automobile. Use it as a sounding board when you find yourself confronted with robust selections by asking your self:

• Will this choice assist me attain my objectives?
• How are my values mirrored on this choice?
• What are my choices? 
• Ought to I pause earlier than making this choice?

Able to create your personal private mission assertion? Right here is the template I take advantage of as a information:

I wish to (what’s necessary to you)  ___________________. Based mostly on my values of ______________ and my objectives, in order that (what’s the legacy you wish to depart) ______________________________.

I worth (doing x) ___________________ as a result of (why it issues) __________________.
To do that, I’ll  ________________________________.

For extra inspiration and communication instruments you might be additionally welcome to obtain my free workbook. It features a checklist of values that can assist you prioritize, messaging ideas and plenty of different assist methods to make use of throughout this tough time.